Sheesh, you need to break it out a bit.

what is the best way to lift? how many ways are there to lift a sami?
There is no 'best' way to lift a Sammy, it really depends on what you are trying to do. Are you going for 31" tires and trail/rock crawling or for more of an adventure build for light trail and exploring? Depending on what you want to use the SJ for will help find out what lift will most likely work best for you.
Is the 1.3 really worth building up or just get the 1.6?
Once again it depends on what you want to use the SJ for. The 1.3L is a great motor, but the 1.6 is going to give you quite a bit more power but depending on what you are using your rig for it isn't necessary. I still use the stock 970cc engine in my wheeler and have for years. With the right gearing a low HP engine that can rev will work just fine.
what parts of what years of toy's will work with mine?
Not much without some custom modifications. You can get kits that help you swap over to Toyota axles and quite a few people have swapped the power steering units over as well.
what years of sidekick will the 1.6l be the best swap?
Depends on how much work you want to do. If you use the 8 vavle engine you can use the stock intake and exhaust. The 16vavle has more power but you have to wire it up.
what other vehicles are you guys using to upgrade these fun lil rides?
I use all Suzuki hardware in mine with upgraded axles from Trail tough. Others switch over to Dana 44, Ford 9" or even Unimog. Suzuki V6 swaps, Chevy Swaps, VW and Nissan Diesel swaps. Read up on the Builds section and see what other people have done.
i have a basically stock 87 and need to know where i start. i will use it as a daily driver and am a weekend warrior one or two times a month. this is my first and hopefully not my last sami.
Personally I am a big fan of the adventure style build with 2" of lift and slightly bigger tires. Toss in a 4:1 transfer case and some lockers and your set. But there are a couple of ways to go depending on how far you want to go. Check out the Members Rides posts to see what others have done.
Where are some write ups about relocating my batteries? i wanna put optimas in my baby but they are too tall.
Optimas will fit just fine.
what about intake mods?
What do you want to do?
interior lighting upgrades or mods.
Let us know what you are looking to do. You will probably want to check in the beginners tech section and the introduction faq;
http://www.zukiworld.com/forum/technical-discussion-beginner-repair/faq-topic-index/