Generally, when tops get old they actually shrink and get tighter.
When trying to snap the rear window across the top of the tailgate, make sure you have the window zippers only zipped about halfway down.....that will give you just a little bit more room to get the bottom of the window fastened to the top of the tailgate.
I wouldn't pull the corner straps down too tight. If they get pulled too hard, the corners of the top will tear at the corners of the support bar.