ok the spark plugs that were losse were the #1 and #3
the spark plug that had oil was #4...and the oil was mainly on the upper part that is still INSIDE the head..like on the threads there is like a little ring thing on the top of the threads that is mostly where the oil was...i dont remember if all the threads had oil on them i will check..the electrode however looks normal just like #2 cylinder
i will also pull the plug in a week to see if there is still oit...i dont think the car smokes at all either i will go check i saw something today but it might have just been cold i guess will double check
the valve cover gasket was replaced by my dad not to long ago in an effort to stop the oil leak( very small leaves maybe dime sized puddles if that)
i really hope it is nothing serious
