What is your experience with auto electrics, or electrics of any sort? Do you have a test meter and do you know how to use it? Do you have the wiring diagram for the vehicle - if not, you can get it at Ack's FAQ.
There are few circuits simpler than the reverse light circuit - battery positive to ignition switch to fuse to reverse light switch to reverse lights to chassis ground - there are no relays involved.
How much have you spent on parts & incorrect diagnosis? Use a test meter to check for voltage at the reverse switch connections, if there is voltage on both connections, disconnect the switch and check the harness side of the connector - if there is voltage on both wires, there is a short in the wiring - if not, the problem is your new switch.
Remove the switch from the transmission, connect it to the wiring and depress the ball with your thumb - can you turn the lights on and off?