What is the best family 4x4 for my situation?
My wife and I love to do some light wheeling back to remote camping areas. We are not able to backpack and find it impossible to strap the infant seats onto a horse. I really want my kids to get to see to learn about the real out doors and not some KOA campground version.
I’ve been wheeling on and off for over 20 years. 99% of them were in mildly modified Jeeps of nearly every model. I am not mechanically inclined which is why I have never gone much beyond tire upgrades and a lift kit (I didn’t install it myself)… I can wheel my way around a trail fairly confidently though. The 4x4 had to go when the first kid was born so I could get a daily driver with killer gas mileage… It sits next to the… I’m sad to say, next to the minivan. Well, I really miss offroading. I want to trade in the DD for something we can take wheeling but still use as an economical DD.
Our wheeling is slow and steady… not the pedal to the floor, just a little more speed and we will make it up that hill type. I have been stuck before but never broken anything on our rigs. Others I’ve wheeled with had broken, dented, and smashed their rigs on the same trails I just walked the 4x4 up... that’s just not my thing. I don’t make the run very good for video or photos but we have a blast.
We are in the Pacific NW closer to the coastal range than the Cascades. We camp where ever I can find a free place. Mostly along the coast, in the coastal range of Oregon, and some time up in the Cascades or up in Washington. As long as it's away from people and traffic. We have found some really nice remote camping spots here and there along our trail rides.

My budget is really tight and want to spend as little as possible... than again who doesn't. I really need to keep it cheap but dependable and gas efficient as it will also be my DD. I drive about 40-50 miles round trip each day. I can get better payment arrangements for a newer 4x4 over a older one. Anywhere from 2K to 16K (new)... I know that's a wide range but if its new and gets great gas mileage (+28 mpg) it will work out but an older one that could be paid off soon could get worse mileage yet still be affordable. I tend to wheel slow and deliberate. Not the best for making photo opps. but I have yet to break anything from bouncing on a rock. I do tend to surprise some people who never thought a virtually stock vehicle could make it back on the trails we've gone down. With kids in the 4x4, I am not going down/up anything which will put them any danger. We just enjoy getting back where 95% of people never dream of going.

I have heard that disco's from the early 90's where pretty great out of the box... but are they expensive to keep rolling, even without factory parts... maybe running generic/aftermarket replacement parts?
I had owned an older trooper II... It was a little 4 banger made of aluminum. I melted it 2x. It was waaaay under powered. The grand cherokee I owned was nice, but it drank gas... it didn't chug it like the CJ-5 with the V8 but still more than I could handle for a DD. The grand wagoneer was just plain huge on the trail and had never ending electrical problems. The rodeo was nice but it was a 2-door and too much a hassle with kids in childseats.
What we need is a reliable vehicle, that can take both of us and three infants, along with all the family camping gear comfortably into the backcountry, as well as, handle the highway speeds getting into the mountains. Since I am not the best at wielding a wrench, it should be fairly easy to maintain. Living on a single family it needs to be affordable… a nice new LR3 would be cool but only if I won it free and clear. I don’t care if it is new or used, what would be the best for my situation? A Grand Vit? The new Jeep Patriot? An older Xterra? A ‘Disco? Something else?
I know there are a lot of loyalists out there. I’m not so concerned about who made it as I am about it meeting my needs.
Please tell me honestly which make, model, year and why?